SuitabookI Don’t Have Your Eyes
Carrie A. Kitze
- Reading
- Read it slowly and pause after each repeated comparison. Invite your child to notice both likenesses and differences, then let them decide whether to connect the ideas to their own family or simply enjoy the story.
- Themes
- Belonging beyond resemblance: A child and parent or caregiver are presented as physically different while sharing inner qualities and a family bond. The book presents family connection and belonging as compatible with differences in appearance.
- Race and culture within families: The book is associated with transracial and transcultural adoptees and with families whose members have different appearances or backgrounds. It draws attention to visible difference while encouraging connection and acceptance, rather than treating resemblance as the basis of family.
- Worth knowing
- Pay attention to whether the message that people are ‘the same inside’ feels affirming for your child, or whether they want more room to discuss race, culture, biology and the particularities of their own family story.