While We Can’t Hug

It may help open a calm conversation about missing someone, different preferences for affection and ways to communicate care. Its repeated reassurance that the friends remain loved gives the relationship a clear emotional centre.

The separation may resonate with a child who is apart from friends or relatives, or who dislikes touching. The book does not explain its cause, so adults may need to supply context gently if wanted.

What ways of showing care feel comfortable for you, and would you like to try any of Hedgehog and Tortoise’s ideas? If someone cannot hug, how else might you know they care?

Read it aloud slowly and pause to notice each alternative greeting or message. Afterwards, invite the child to choose or invent one way to express affection; do not assume hugging is necessary.