SuitabookFinding language for identity
The narrator moves through experiences of gender expectations before finding that the term “nonbinary” resonates.
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Theo Parish - Author
A reflective memoir about gender identity, sexuality and the gradual process of recognising oneself as nonbinary. Its emotional centre is the search for comfort and belonging, rather than a simple, instant answer.
In their comics debut, Theo Parish masterfully weaves an intimate and defiantly hopeful memoir about the journey one nonbinary person takes to find a home within themself. Combining traditional comics with organic journal-like interludes, Theo takes us through their experiences with the hundred arbitrary and unspoken gender binary rules of high school, from harrowing haircuts and finally the right haircut to the intersection of gender identity and sexuality—and through tiny everyday moments that all led up to Theo finding the term “nonbinary,” which finally struck a chord. “Have you ever had one of those moments when all of a sudden things become clear…like someone just turned on a light?” A whole spectrum of people will be drawn to Theo’s storytelling, from trans or questioning teens and adults, to folks who devoured Gender Queer by Maia Kobabe or The Fire Never Goes Out by ND Stevenson, to any person looking to dive a little deeper into the way gender can shape identity. Throughout the book, Theo’s crystal-clear voice reminds the reader that it’s okay not to know, it’s okay to change your mind, and it’s okay to take your time finding your way home. “We are all just trying to find a place to call our own. We are all deserving of comfort and safety, a place to call home.”
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Sign in for personalised guidanceA reflective memoir about gender identity, sexuality and the gradual process of recognising oneself as nonbinary. Its emotional centre is the search for comfort and belonging, rather than a simple, instant answer.
The narrator moves through experiences of gender expectations before finding that the term “nonbinary” resonates.
High-school rules around gender and experiences involving haircuts form part of the narrator’s journey.
The memoir connects finding a term for identity with finding a sense of home within oneself.
High-school gender rules, difficult haircut experiences and the intersection of gender identity with sexuality may feel emotionally close or challenging. The tone is described as hopeful.
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