Instructions on how to lose a mother

It may offer a focused way to talk about love, remembrance and changing feelings after loss. The verse form and images invite pauses, rereading and attention to how emotion can be expressed indirectly.

The mother’s death is central and is followed by overwhelming sadness, grief and a gradual healing process. If bereavement is especially tender in your family, consider reading alongside the child rather than presenting it unexpectedly.

How do the poems and images show the relationship changing after the loss? Which memories seem to help the child continue, and does the ending leave you feeling that healing is complete or still continuing?

Read a few poems at a time, allowing space after the mother’s death rather than rushing through. Return to the artwork and invite the child to choose a line, image or feeling to discuss.